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Dinner at the Nelson Table
I’ve cooked thousands of dinners. Most of them have been pretty good. My grandmother was the very best cook in the world, so having watched her cook thousands of meals, I had to develop a bit of skill.
Night after night, I put dinner on the table. The kids dive in with their oh-so-polite manners and then we clean up. I’ve never been one to handle routine too well for too long.
So every once in a while, I do something different, something, maybe a little silly. It started when Jason and I were first married. My cooking skills were still coming along, but I had grown tired of making the same dishes. That’s when I decided to have Caribbean Night.
We don’t live in the Caribbean. We don’t even live in the South. I had absolutely no idea what okra was or how to find it. But, with the help of the guy at the grocery store and my Missouri-raised grandmother, I found my ingredients.
I worked all day on dishes that smelled funny and tasted unusual. My husband was kind, but I’ve forever canceled any plans to move to the Caribbean. He’s sure he’d starve to death there.
Last Friday I’d come to a point of boredom again. So we had Seafood Night! Not your normal seafood, we had oysters, clams, shrimp…and baby octopus.
The challenge? The first two kids to take a big bite and get it down won the privilege of choosing a meal for the next week.
My youngest bit right in. That girls has no fear. She chewed it up, swallowed and proceeded to eat more.
Next to the challenge was my oldest (the middle two would have none of this game). His eyes watered. Strange sounds erupted from his belly. We all sat watching with a touch of humor and an ample dose of fear. That one bite stayed in his mouth for at least five minutes before he finally coaxed it down his throat.
It was fun, but I noticed the kiddos went back to the kitchen a little later and enjoyed the lasagna leftovers.
Two days later, it was time for Friend’s Thanksgiving.
For twelve years now, we’ve invited our friend over for a Thanksgiving meal before Thanksgiving. Numbers have always been high, but as the years increase so has the number of children. I think our total was around sixty. There were a few that had to cancel due to illness.
Though Friend’s Thanksgiving is a crazy amount of chaos, I love that moment when we all sit down at the huge table that fills my living room and takes a turn into the hallway. Looking out and seeing all the friends who have become family it a special sight. I took a picture so you could get the idea, but it really doesn’t do it justice.
Happy Thanksgiving! How will you spend the holiday?
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A Little Bit of Wisdom!
It’s my birthday! I love birthdays. There’s been a lot of teasing around here about getting older and falling apart, but let’s face it, forty isn’t old. Okay, it’s not young either. Forty is the perfect middle ground. I’m old enough that I’ve collected a bit of wisdom (just a bit). And I’m young enough that I still feel like I can do anything!
One thing that’s really encouraged me lately is how happy my fifty year old friends seem. I take that to mean the next ten years could easily be the best of my life!
I’ve been pondering what I’ve learned so far. Here’s the beginning of my list.
- It’s best to stay away from drama. The problem is, drama works very hard to draw in an audience.
- History is much more exciting than we were led to believe in high school.
- Time spent in prayer is never wasted.
- Cats can be wonderful companion…but they also vomit.
- Persistence is key.
- Persistence must be tempered with patience.
- Bruises don’t fade as fast when you’re forty.
- One should be very careful when walking into the garage. You could fall and get a big bruise.
- When you give forgiveness, you set yourself free.
- I can choose to be happy by focusing on my blessings.
Leave a comment and tell us what grains of wisdom you’ve collected.
Thanks for reading!
Christina
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Thirty-Nine…For One More Day!
Tomorrow I turn forty!
Time sure has a way of flying by. It seems like I just graduated high school. Over the last few days I’ve been thinking back over my life. You know, the good, bad, and other stuff. I’m left with the conclusion that forty isn’t such a bad thing.
The day I turned ten, we flew home from Disneyland. That’s sad enough, but on this particular day John Schneider was due to appear in the park. The Dukes of Hazzard was big then…Real big. And I was sure that Mr. Schneider was the greatest man alive.
At ten I’d lived with my dad and his family for most of the last year. Though I was glad to be included, I struggled with the transition. I was awkward, scrawny, and pretty lost in my own world.
At twenty, I was a newly engaged college student. Though I loved my fiance, I lacked confidence that I could maintain a marriage. Okay, I was sure I’d fail and take someone I loved with me. Life fluctuated between joy and fear. Confidence and faith were rarely in the equation.
By thirty I was surrounded by my tiny children, and I’d become responsible for my grandmother’s financial, medical, and daily decisions. I loved this time, but the fatigue was sometimes overwhelming. At this point, I worried about who I’d be when we stopped having little ones. My identity was granddaughter and mom.
So, where am I now that I’m about to turn 40? Well, my kids are getting older. They’re becoming their own independent people, and I’m loving the opportunity to see them grown into themselves. I’ve been married for nineteen years and it’s better than I ever hoped. I’m working toward being a published novelist, and I’m learning more everyday. I have so many wonderful blessings. For the first time in my life, I feel like I know who I am, and I’m confident that God has a plan for me.
Forty is going to be the best so far!
Blessings,
Christina
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What Are You Thankful For?
It’s November again, and Facebook is going crazy with claimed blessings and thankful thoughts. I love it. They range from serious to odd. You know, things like, “I’m thankful that the cat didn’t puke in my shoe this morning, just all over the carpet.” Perspective!
I’ve come to love this modern-day tradition. And I wonder, does the conscious thought of our blessings change our daily actions? I’m thinking it does. When I take the time to think of how each of my children are blessings to me, my patients grows longer. When I consider how my husband supports me completely, I’m able to love the opportunity to do things for him. When I think of how grateful I am to have a home, I bear the constant maintenance with a different attitude. It’s like bringing the important part of the story to the surface.
It’s only November 2, not to late for you to join in. Consider posting your thankful thoughts this month, and maybe throughout the year too.
What are you thankful for today?